November 2012 Archives

In the wake of Hurricane Sandy and an increasing likelihood that extreme weather events will be a part of our lives from now on, we parents need to maintain open and loving conversations with our children. While there is no "wrong way" to be open and loving, here are some suggestions that might help:

·         Remain available to talk about what is happening. Accept all questions, even if they are repeated over (and over!) again.

·         Be honest. Give facts at an appropriate level for your child's developmental level. Be willing to say "I don't know" if that is indeed the case.

·         Acknowledge feelings - your own and your child's. Natural events bring up lots of emotions for us - fear, anger, worry, despair, hope - and that is how it should be. Talking about feelings helps everyone.

·         Let your child know there are people who can help. Become people who can help. Find ways to help those in more need than you. Helping others creates hope for all.

·         Limit television viewing: vivid images can be quite disturbing and can cause long-lasting discomfort.

·          Use drawing as a way to get disturbing images out of your child's mind: have them draw the image and then rip up the picture. This works especially well with nightmares.

·         Recognize that headaches, stomach aches, and sleep disturbances all accompany anxiety and uncertainty. Let your child know that these are natural reactions to stress and will pass soon.

·         Let your children be kids: when they are ready to just go out and play with their friends, let them do so.  Help them - and yourselves - come to terms with this "new normal" in our world.

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As the holiday season approaches I want to put in a good word about an organization I work with - the Quaker Bolivia Link (www.qbl.org) - providing fresh water, nutrition, and education for impoverished people in the altiplano region of South America. You can give holiday gifts in honor of family members through this website: https://www.alternativegifts.org/projects/project15/.

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